Your big day is slowly approaching, and you haven’t yet cracked your wedding day script. Writing the perfect wedding script is a way to truly honor the main focus of such a beautiful day. Old and new traditions are sprinkled in weddings, thus providing you with many options and approaches to writing your perfect wedding script. As overwhelming as it may seem: it is the one chance you have to show and tell your love story with your guests in the shortest amount of time.
Here are some Guidelines for Writing the Perfect Wedding Script:
1. START EARLY
Every writing activity requires one to start early, and a wedding script is no exception. Start your research early enough to give way to all the paper crumbling and basketball tosses into the trash. Of course, if you prefer to type it out, that works too! It may seem like a simple task but take it seriously. Talk to your partner, friends, and family or even a wedding planner to help you make feasible drafts. Your officiant can also be a big help. Try to find inspiration online from Instagram and Pinterest to help you put together a remarkable wedding ceremony idea that represents the ideals of your relationship. But please. Do NOT wait until the last minute. The ceremony is one of the most important pieces to the wedding. Start with an outline, then take it from there.
2. WRITE YOUR VOWS EARLY
It is imperative to let your partner know just how much they mean to you; however hard it may seem to express yourself. Letting emotions flow freely and being vulnerable is a hard thing for some.
Vows make up an essential part of a wedding ceremony script, and it requires a lot of strength and courage to pour out one’s heart in words (in front of other people mind you). Be sure to set aside time to write your vows in advance. Too many times couples wait until the “day of” to do this and then end up rushing through them and writing cliche terms like “best friend” and “soul mate”. Aim to have this completely done at least 30 days before your wedding. After that, there are too many other details to focus on.
3. OUTLINE THE RITUALS
Every ceremony has certain rituals and an order in which they occur. Outline the required rituals in advance to help you mark and note the times in the ceremony when the script will become relevant. Whether it is a traditional church ceremony or a modern wedding, certain obligatory rituals must be performed to officiate your marriage to your partner.
4. STRUCTURE YOUR DAY
Structuring your wedding ceremony allows your guests to plan their trips accordingly and on time. Understand that your guests will arrive from different parts of the city, state, or even country.
Also, offering a ceremony program to your guests so they can follow along will make them feel more involved in your ceremony.
5. COMMUNICATE WITH YOUR OFFICIANT
Ensure that the person you choose to officiate over your wedding is ordained and experienced (if this is required in your particular area). Consult them and find out if they have an outline you can use while crafting your script. This saves you time and effort. If your officiant is a friend, then it is important to walk them through the intricacies of the day and everything that is required of them. Make sure you are clear on your expectations. Sometimes people want a ceremony that is fun and light-hearted. Others want a more serious, dramatic feel. There are no rules here. Just make sure everyone knows what you are expecting so there are no surprises.
6. KEEP IT SIMPLE
The most straightforward stories are always the best. Do not include too much, and also do not underestimate the power of an excellent first encounter story. Throw in an anecdote that relates to your personal love story. Make the script unique to you by including details that mean a lot to you and your partner. You can also add uniqueness to your ceremony with the music you choose. Did you meet at a Taylor Swift concert? Then you DEF need a T-Swift song in your ceremony. Did you meet at a winery in Napa? Then make sure to incorporate a wine ceremony into your script. Get creative here. Everyone has a story to tell.
7. HAVE YOUR AUDIENCE IN MIND
A wedding is a truly memorable moment that ought to be enjoyed by the couple; however, it is crucial to understand your guests and their needs, as well as their concentration spans. You don’t want people rolling their eyes and checking their phones. Some people, like kids, may find it hard to sit if the ceremony takes too long. Consider other factors like the geographic location and how it may affect your guests. (outdoors, indoors, cold, hot, etc) You can also share stories that the audience can relate to and even end up inspiring their own love stories. You never know who in your audience needs to hear a certain message.
8. PERSONALIZE IT
A ceremony needs to be about YOU, the couple. You should be the center of everyone’s attention. Personalize your script to be about you and your partner. Include elements of your own love story within the script, including some life-changing and moving details and stories that will leave the audience crying, laughing, or feeling challenged or inspired. So many times, people rush through their ceremonies. Don’t rush. If you are a faith-filled person, make sure to incorporate that aspect into your ceremony as well.
9. DECIDE ON YOUR READINGS EARLY ON
An inevitable part of a wedding ceremony is the readings. Readings can set the tone. Whether it be verses from the Bible, or excerpts from an inspiring Children’s Book, like the “Velveteen Rabbit”, or Dr. Seuss’ “Oh the places you will go”, make sure they fit with the overall feel of your wedding ceremony and what you are trying to communicate to your guests. Readings can express your personalities, beliefs, and wishes.
10. RUN YOUR SCRIPT BY A PROOFREADER
It is vital to have someone else go through the final draft before using it. Accept feedback, whether negative or positive and amend your script where necessary. Read the script out to a friend or friends and hear out it flows. Proofreading eliminates chances of any confusion on the wedding day.
If you experience any trouble writing your wedding script or vows, you can get expert help from professional writers. They are easy to find by googling “writing service that can help me with my thesis,” or “wedding ceremony writers”. There are lots of resources and examples online to help get you started.
A wedding ceremony might as well be the most important aspect of the wedding. Every couple dreams of this day as the perfect day and wants everything to happen smoothly. Preparation gives you an upper hand. Follow these steps and turn your wedding ceremony into the most dreamy and beautiful day of your life.
This post was contributed by Jessica Fender who is a professional content creator, copywriter, and editorial manager on Papers-board. Her experience in digital marketing and professional development has enabled her to write better articles, essays, and case studies on these topics. Jessica enjoys reading, personal development literature, and listening to podcasts.